You are not alone.
A Mind at War offers compassionate support for people struggling with thoughts of suicide, and for those who have lost someone they love.
Our mission
Suicide touches more lives than we often realise. Behind every statistic is a person, a family, a community changed forever.
A Mind at War is a space for honest conversation, gentle guidance, and the knowledge that whatever you are carrying, you do not have to carry it alone.
“The wound is the place where the light enters you.”
— Rumi
Two paths, one place to begin
Whatever brings you here today, there is a starting point for you.
If you're struggling
If you are having thoughts of suicide, or you feel you cannot go on, please know that what you are feeling can change — even when it does not feel that way right now.
Find support →If you've lost someone
Losing someone to suicide brings a grief like no other — tangled with questions, guilt, and an aching absence. Whatever you are feeling is valid.
Find support →Get in touch
For speaking, training, or to share your story — we would love to hear from you. Please note this site is not a crisis service.
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The story, and the why, behind A Mind at War.
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Get in touch
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ContactIf you're struggling
Whatever you are feeling right now is real, and you are not alone.
If you need to talk to someone right now
What you might be feeling
When the pain feels overwhelming, it can be hard to imagine anything else. You may feel exhausted, numb, or like a burden to others. You may feel that the people you love would be better off without you. None of those thoughts are facts — they are symptoms of how much you are hurting.
Feelings change. Even when it does not feel possible, they do. The next few hours are not the same as the rest of your life.
Some things that can help, right now
- Tell someone. A friend, a family member, a helpline, your GP. Saying it out loud — or typing it — lifts a little of the weight.
- Move the means. If you have a specific plan, put distance between yourself and whatever you have been thinking about — give it to a friend, lock it away, leave the house.
- Make it through the next hour. Not the next year. Not tomorrow. Just the next hour.
- Be kind to your body. A glass of water. A walk outside. A blanket. The smallest acts of care still count.
- Reach out for proper support. Your GP can refer you, or call the Samaritans if you do not know where to start.
You deserve support
Asking for help is not weakness, and it is not a failure. It is one of the bravest things a person can do. If you are not sure where to begin, please use one of the numbers above, or get in touch with us and we will help you find the right next step.
If you've lost someone
Losing someone to suicide is a grief like no other. You are not alone in carrying it.
A different kind of grief
Bereavement by suicide carries its own weight. Alongside the loss, there can be unanswered questions, guilt, shame, anger, relief, exhaustion — sometimes all at once, sometimes in waves that come without warning. Whatever you are feeling, it is part of grief, and it is valid.
There is no right way to mourn, and no timeline you have to meet. Some days are survivable; some days are not. Please be gentle with yourself.
Things to know
- You could not have known everything. Suicide is rarely a single cause — it is the convergence of many things, most of them hidden, many of them not yours to carry.
- The "why" may never be fully answered. Learning to live with that absence is part of the grief, not a failure of it.
- Other people will say the wrong thing. Even people who love you. Take what helps; let the rest go.
- You may need professional support. Grief counselling, particularly with someone experienced in suicide loss, can be transformative.
- Connecting with others who understand helps. Suicide-loss support groups offer something no one else can: people who have stood where you are standing.
Where to turn
- Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS) — UK peer-support charity for adults bereaved by suicide. uksobs.org
- Cruse Bereavement Support — general bereavement support with suicide-specific resources. cruse.org.uk
- The Compassionate Friends — for bereaved parents and siblings. tcf.org.uk
- Help is at Hand — free, comprehensive booklet from Public Health England for those bereaved by suicide. Read here
If you would like to speak with us — to share your story, or to be pointed toward the right help — please get in touch.
“What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.”
— Helen Keller
Resources
Helplines, organisations, and reading for those affected by suicide.
Immediate help (24/7)
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Call 116 123 →
Samaritans
Free, confidential, any time, any reason.
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Text SHOUT to 85258 →
SHOUT
Free text support.
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Call 111 →
NHS 111
Option 2 for urgent mental health support.
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Call 999 →
Emergency services
If you or someone else is in immediate danger.
For those struggling
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mind.org.uk →
Mind
Information and advice on mental health.
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thecalmzone.net →
CALM
Campaign Against Living Miserably — support for anyone struggling.
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papyrus-uk.org →
Papyrus HOPELINE247
Confidential support for under-35s with thoughts of suicide.
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stayalive.app →
Stay Alive App
Free pocket suicide-prevention resource (iOS & Android).
For those bereaved by suicide
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uksobs.org →
Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS)
UK peer-support charity for adults bereaved by suicide.
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supportaftersuicide.org.uk →
Support After Suicide Partnership
National coordination of suicide-bereavement services.
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Read PDF →
Help is at Hand
Free PDF booklet for those bereaved by suicide.
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cruse.org.uk →
Cruse Bereavement Support
General bereavement support including suicide loss.
Recommended reading
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Reasons to Stay Alive — Matt Haig
Memoir on living through depression.
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No Time to Say Goodbye — Carla Fine
A classic on suicide loss.
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Night Falls Fast — Kay Redfield Jamison
On understanding suicide.
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Grief Works — Julia Samuel
On grief in many forms, including suicide loss.
Videos
Talks, interviews, and conversations.
Videos will appear here as they are added. In the meantime, please visit our resources page or get in touch.
Get in touch
For speaking, training, or to share your story — we would love to hear from you.
Please note: this form is not monitored continuously and is not a crisis service. If you need someone to talk to right now, please call Samaritans on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258. In an emergency dial 999.